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SPACES for Self-Leadership — Complete Series

Six steps to self-leadership without control or willpower. Start with Step 1 below and work your way through.

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Self-Leadership

When You Are Trying to Solve a Problem, the Ideas Start to Come

A falconer in Ireland said something that stopped me. Here's what it means for every person who feels stuck.

August 14, 2026

SPACES Practice

What My 9-Year-Old Taught Me About Self-Leadership

The clearest demonstration of SPACES in action happened in my son's bedroom on a Saturday afternoon.

August 7, 2026

SPACES Practice

How to Check In With Yourself Every Day (And Why It Changes Everything)

A practical framework for the daily check-in — and why the most important time to practice is when nothing is wrong.

July 24, 2026

SPACES Practice

Why Your Inner Work Isn't Sticking (And the Daily Practice That Changes That)

Insight alone doesn't create lasting change. Here's the missing piece most people overlook.

July 17, 2026

Self-Compassion

Why Being Kind to Yourself Feels Dangerous (And What's Actually Happening)

That discomfort when you try to soften the inner critic isn't weakness — it's a loyal protector doing the only job it knows.

June 19, 2026

Self-Compassion

Compassion Isn't Letting Yourself Off the Hook — It's How You Get Back on Track

Most high-achievers hear "self-compassion" and feel something recoil. Here's the reframe that changes everything.

June 12, 2026

Self-Leadership

Why You Don't Trust Yourself — And How to Rebuild It

Self-trust isn't built through perfect control. It's built through what happens in the moment after things go sideways.

May 8, 2026

Self-Leadership

The Hidden Cost of Self-Criticism

Self-criticism feels like accountability. But most of the time, it quietly makes change harder. Here's why.

May 1, 2026

Self-Leadership

Why You Feel Out of Control (Even When You're Trying Hard)

If you're capable in every other area of life but still feel helpless around food, this isn't a willpower problem.

April 24, 2026

SPACES Practice

Wise Action: Responding from Clarity Instead of Habit

Step 6 — What becomes possible when you've stayed present through a difficult moment.

April 10, 2026

SPACES Practice

Being With: The Skill That Changes Your Relationship with Yourself

Step 5 — Most of us fight our experience. This is what staying with it actually makes possible.

April 3, 2026

SPACES Practice

Tuning In: Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body

Step 4 — The skill that moves you from analysis paralysis to actual presence.

March 27, 2026

SPACES Practice

Non-Judgment: The Step That Makes Everything Else Possible

Step 3 — Without it, space becomes control and curiosity never quite lands.

March 20, 2026

SPACES Practice

Why Permission Changes Everything (And Control Keeps You Stuck)

Step 2 — The subtle shift that changes your entire relationship with urges and difficult patterns.

March 13, 2026

SPACES Practice

Why Change Starts with Space, Not Willpower

Step 1 — The foundation of the Body Wisdom framework and why it works differently.

March 6, 2026

SPACES Framework

SPACES: A Simple Framework for the Moments That Matter

When the urge hits, most people either try to control it or give in. Here's a third option.

February 27, 2026

Self-Leadership

Your Triggers Are Check-Engine Lights

What if the moments you most want to run from were actually carrying the most information?

February 20, 2026

Self-Leadership

Why Emotional Triggers Feel So Strong

The intensity isn't a sign of weakness. Here's the nervous system explanation that changes everything.

February 13, 2026

Patterns & Change

Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns

You can understand a pattern completely and still repeat it. Here's why — and what actually changes it.

February 6, 2026

Self-Leadership

Permission Is Not Giving Up

The fear of loosening control is real and protective. Here's the distinction that makes permission feel safe.

January 30, 2026

Patterns & Change

It's Never Too Late to Change Course

When the spiral has already started, the most important move isn't to wait for a fresh start.

January 23, 2026

Food & Body

Emotional Hunger vs. Physical Hunger: Learning to Tell the Difference

The signals get blurry for real reasons. Here's how to understand them — without more self-judgment.

January 16, 2026

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